Came across a post on EVE TEASING or demonstration against Eve-Teasing I should say. It reminded me of my college days when I had to discover ways to keep off FRUSTATED MEN (old - young, didn't matter). I had to take the city bus to college everyday. Was lucky if I got a seat. If not then the day starts with shouting at these jerk. I am glad that I never succumbed to such stress and gave any chance of pleasure to such jerks! I used to carry a safety pin and I always had boots. I have used the pins couple of times very nicely, with full liberrty on people who have tried to take advantage of being in a crowded bus. I bet never have those men ever touched another girl. Because they would just scream in middle of the bus, and people will ask 'Why what happened'! They won't have any reply, and I would just look into their eyes, with a satanic smile. Am sure they would have been reminded of it even while sleeping with their wife!! I am glad that I could do this. Many of classmates could not. I had to be their care-taker. I never disliked the role but failed to encourage them to fight for themselves. Some eventually did in couple of occassions. It's not only the city buses. I have faced such incidents growing up while traveling by train. On one ocassion I grabbed the guy sleeping in the middle berth by his collar and trashed him nicely. I had the advantage of height being on the upper bunk! Kicked him nicely. Woke up everybody in the train. I still remember these incidents. Honestly speaking after I did, this I could not sleep that night. I was little worried and scared. What if these guys follow me back home etc etc. I used to live alone then in Calcutta (Kolkata). Anyway, later when I told about this to my parents, they just told me never to be scared of such situations and never let anybody take advantage of you of being a women. My dad also told, 'look whenever you are in situatoin like this, always remember that the person who is doing it also is scared within. But he knows you are weak so that gives him the confidence and courage to trouble you/' BUT once you disprove his assumption, that YOU ARE NOT WEAK and can beat the hell out of him, he would not dare to do that again.
Thanks to my parents for their upbringing, that I never feared to show my middle finger to such jerks and trash them in public if need be. My experience and independence eventually helped me in my research (and life) while in India, which needed me to travel to all sorts of places, with unkown people, through unknown means..(Bus, train, boat, tracter, Van...etc etc..) and awkward hours. Anyways, back to present. Why all of a sudden talk about all this?
Well I had a sudden adrenaline rush as I read the following post. I am glad that women are more openly encouraged to voice their discomfort. Here follows the link to the incidents of 'Eve Teasing'.
Join the march to say or encourage somebody to say 'NO' to EVE TEASING!
Thanks to my parents for their upbringing, that I never feared to show my middle finger to such jerks and trash them in public if need be. My experience and independence eventually helped me in my research (and life) while in India, which needed me to travel to all sorts of places, with unkown people, through unknown means..(Bus, train, boat, tracter, Van...etc etc..) and awkward hours. Anyways, back to present. Why all of a sudden talk about all this?
Well I had a sudden adrenaline rush as I read the following post. I am glad that women are more openly encouraged to voice their discomfort. Here follows the link to the incidents of 'Eve Teasing'.
Join the march to say or encourage somebody to say 'NO' to EVE TEASING!
7 comments:
You've been brave which is a good thing. You've been lucky too, which again, is a good thing. But there's no solution that works everywhere. Many a times, neither a pin nor the strength of vocal chords works. Life has its own manner of humbling people down. Yes, we need to have discretion and show strength. But I think one must always prefer the former in such matters.
'No' to eve-teasing!
-- Akshaya
Good lord! Very smart indeed with those pins and high-heels. :)
I have witnessed only one such incident during Holi in our college. And, the friends of that girl beat the pulp out of the culprits.
Yup, I was lucky with JUST pins and boots..but some aren't! They have to go through worst!
And don't even talk about HOLI. It a 'PARADISE' for such JERKS. And I BET if I, and all the women atleast from India start writing about their day to day experiences growing up , most of our guy (atleast mine, I know for sure) friends will be sick of themselves, or atleast their gender!
Inspite of being threatened and exposed to such situtions since our childhood, we tend to believe MEN are nice and hope to meet nice men! ISN'T that amazing! ONLY A WOMEN CAN DO THIS. Thats why am so PROUD of my womenhood.
Sometimes I wonder how it would have been if it was the other way round!!
C'mon. You can't generalize like that. You haven't met all men in the world to say that all men would molest a lady when given the chance.
Don't come to me saying you haven't met any nice men in your life and your hope to meet nice men still remains a hope.
PS: I'm in no mood to have a debate, please. You have a (mis)conception that all men in the world are alike. I just wanted to clarify that.
Offcourse I have met lot of nice men. Some of my best friends are all infact men! I don't generalise. It was just a comment made on the proportion of jerks u meet or come across on a day to day life. These SPECIES are not the one's you are friends with...but they DO exist in significant numbers mingled within the crowd.
Checking your reply after ages. Sorry for that!
Okay, for one, one of my closest friends has himself been subjected to really horrible attack on his private part by some neighbouring girl on the day of Holi. Though, it might not be a representative case, I refuse to admit that it's a standout one either. Yet, needless to say, what men face is nothing when compared to what women do.
-- Akshaya
Didi tomaar ki kono fan club achhe?! Else I would be the founding member! I admire you for having the guts to GIVE IT BACK TO THE BASTARDS IN GOOD MEASURE.
You are right. Many a time I have felt very guilty of being a man, not known to the hell that women go through. And that is why I wish to help. And act on it. Oi je Mahatma gandhi r ekta kotha achhe na "Be the Change you wish to see in the world".
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bubai
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