My reply was more than just a comment. Hence I just posted it here, as well.
Nina, I think THIS IS A VERY SENSITIVE issue. That's why I commented on Anna's blog not to ignore the things(torture) that happens inside the four walls of many houses. You would be surprised to realise that WIFE BASHING is a very common thing, and it IS common because women don't protest. And it is this wife bashing, which leads to bashing any women who does not listen to you!
There is a long historical and social reason behind all this. NO POINT just asking men to change. Women need to change and grow up as well, and realise that they deserve a dignified life. Earlier it was different. Most women used to live a life of a slut because they had children whom they had to take care (and most of these children eventually grow up to bash their mom'!) and they were not financially independent. Until and unless a women is resepected right from her childhood and encouraged to feel and be independent these things won't change. This world in A MAN-DOMINATED world. You cannot just ask them to give up their power and regime. The only way to deal with it, according to me is to encourage every girl/women to be independent and dignified. It's a common human attitude and a game of power, which has its roots in behavorial ecology (how the animal world functions). Male/Female does not matter. A subject will do things to dominate you, until you show them their limits.
And a person who has got the courage to beat up somebody once, will do it again. It is the same courage that we have to tell some men to F off! In the same way, the idea that 'O' HE WILL CHANGE, IS bull Shit. A man who hits ONCE will always have excuses, justification and reasoning to hit again.
In nutshell, I believe these are the basic principles and philosophy of life that are seeded in you, by your parents and family as you grow up. And it is the same philosopy that governs how you bring up your children and family. Some people are born lucky. You cannot choose the enviornment and situation you are born in, but if you don't agree to certain things you can choose to be different. No point cribbing about it.
This again leads to my favourite quote - 'Be the change you wish to see in the world - M.K. Gandhi'
And a person who has got the courage to beat up somebody once, will do it again. It is the same courage that we have to tell some men to F off! In the same way, the idea that 'O' HE WILL CHANGE, IS bull Shit. A man who hits ONCE will always have excuses, justification and reasoning to hit again.
In nutshell, I believe these are the basic principles and philosophy of life that are seeded in you, by your parents and family as you grow up. And it is the same philosopy that governs how you bring up your children and family. Some people are born lucky. You cannot choose the enviornment and situation you are born in, but if you don't agree to certain things you can choose to be different. No point cribbing about it.
This again leads to my favourite quote - 'Be the change you wish to see in the world - M.K. Gandhi'
2 comments:
My first suggestion is write about people who have faced such situations (eve teasing, molestation, rape, bashing etc) and have still taken a postive stand, inspite of the society possibly not accepting them back. Write stories on them. Make them the role model for other to see. That will give confidence to many who are hidding somewhere.
My 2nd suggestion is specific to your profession. Come up with a Journal (magazine etc) some thing which talks and encourages women to be more independent, possibly citing stories of people from real life. All the women magazine's we have ARE BOGUS according to me. They only cater to the needs of models (fasion and beauty)! It is important, but I feel making women realise what they are instead of making them believe what others want them to believe is more important.
3. Organise different social defense camps. NCC provides some, but all do not go to NCC camps. There are some internationally recognised defense workshops. I can provide you the information of the one I know. Send me your email address.
4. Along with such defense camps also have normal Moral Boost, and self employment workshops! - This will give them a choice to become financially independent,if need be.
5. A nice place to start will be to do such camps at govt. schools. Govt. because more poor kids go there, and that is where the upliftment needs to be emphasised.
There are lot of NGO's also who are working on many such issues. You are a writter cum journalist and with the media, so use the power of your pen, to make them popular. And I believe that media CAN make a big difference.
another blogathon post..I see. I can only hope the movement will go beyond blogosphere and create a definite impact in the real world. Thanx, thought provoking post.
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