what is Love ?

I think this blog is inspired by all the marriages that happening around me over past one month and the seemingly strong and significant correlation between Love and one of its outcome 'marriage'!

Ok, my take on Love has been - It is one of the most easy concept and natural thing to do or be in ! Yet I don't understand why people struggle with it , for it, avoid it or run away from it!

Over the years these are the different versions I have heard or may be experienced -

Teenage experience suggests - its the butterflies or the bell that rings one fine day, out of blue all of a sudden in the least expected situation when your eyes or smiles clash. (waoooo it feels great to even visualize it) :)

Arranged Marriage Experience - well when you start living with someone on a daily basis under the same roof something happens, and the something is called 'love'

The more open/exploring/experimenting versions (love marriage) - well, the first time he/she held my hand I could 'FEEL' or 'Knew' its' her/him and I was in Love at first sight

The Dad-Mom version - Well, when we met I did not even see your Dad/Mom. But we knew this is the person I have to and will spend rest of my life and is my/our world. And I/We fell in love. Those days we did not think or experiment or question things so much. We knew, this is IT. (this scares the shit out of me! Hat's off they had some courage, spare me. I don't)

Ok, now all the unmarried or single experiences of love -

Post heart break - It was so good. I don't think I can feel that way again or fall in love again !!

First date experience - Oh she/he is so kewl. I think am totally..in love with this person (watch out!!)

After couple of years of dating - No, I think it was just a crush. We don't have that chemistry anymore. I think we have fallen out of love or You know what we have grow apart!

Some blessed or unblessed soul would say - Love, huh what the hell is it?

Some real angry souls would say - oh, am done with it. There is nothing as love. Its all lust and need !

For some supercritical and technical people - Oh, its an hormonal reaction that happens between adults irrespective of gender in response to some mental or physical attraction towards each other ....

For Others - Aaah, I don't have time to figure what it is! I have better things to do ! :( ( too bad)

For some - What is the need of it ? I am happy myself. I don't need someone to feel loved!!

The unconditional version - its the feeling that you get when you meet someone and you wish the best for them in whatever they do or choose. No expectation policy :)

The Compromising version - well, its the feeling that makes you do things for someone else but surprisingly it makes YOU freaking 'HAPPY' :) And you don't even realize it!

The possessive version - the feeling where he/she wants or expects to be the center of attraction in his/her life in everything.

The One-sided version settle for - Oh, it was an illusion. Just a crush or infatuation may be!

The my space version - Its the feeling of just being there and not having to even talk or communicate. It's just so comfortable, one does not even have to compromise on the 'my space' Or may be its not even needed.

The complimentary version - It's the feeling when the qualities of him/her are just complimentary to you and one balances out each other.

The non- complimentary version - Not sure if it's 'love' but yes have heard of 'opposites attract' so may be its that feeling

The platonic version - Oh, no there is no love. We are just 'Friends' (I have always had problems with this version. How can you be friends and not really love your friend, Moron!!)
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There is possibly more! But these are the few statements I have heard most frequently..the more I think about it I feel, I think, I believe its more our own mindset...even after the roller coaster I have been I think -

It's the combination of all the above versions. Not one single version is the only possible version. The more you try to focus on it, the harder it gets to get hold of it! So just Be in IT :) till you can..

It's about the willingness of letting go of yourself, simple! All the restrictions or complications are or can be attributed to the fact, 'If I am willing to do so or not ?'

The answer to above is processed by the grey cells by asking questions like 'Whom and Why' ?

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aah simple, looks like I figured out the most challenging question of one's life :)
and the following song suits this post the best ....