It just takes ONE 'Un-Attended Emotion' or 'Expectation' to start tearing a page of beautiful memories.Wonder how many times we have done it consciously or unconsciously !
How does one attend to all the emotions of others? Or is it important to attend your own emotions first? Or is it more important to attend to those who are important to you? Sometimes while attending others emotions we often loose track on what we feel and soon we forget when was the last time I listened or heard my emotions. When it feels nice and comforting to have someone attending to our expectation and emotions why is it hard to be understand and just stand by the others thought? Which we always knew and had answers to all our questions. Unfortunately for me, I have moved on to a very narrow channel in life. Where only reciprocated actions or events make a progress or have a stay in my life and memory. I have lost the interest of driving or walking on broad highways of un-reciprocated or unattended responses unless mentioned otherwise. But I expect a call or an sms or an instant note on 'am caught' in a traffic will get back to you as soon as possible! Is it like suffocating someone in an attendence sheet and killing their freedom?
No, thats not what I meant! As that isn't something I think I am capable of doing either. But if something is bothering me or has upset me or somebody is upset and that somebody is important to me, I have to resolve the issue at the earliest! Unresolved and unattended only makes me walk past the person on that narrow channel and beyond certain distance, I am on a different road and I become deaf to voices or calls from behind! I guess a better way will be I can't even hear any voice !
For me exchange of emotions, communications, thoughts, words, is the only way of letting something continue existing or being on the same page. One such unknown, uninformed stop over I believe becomes a habit till one day you realize you are not even on the same road anymore! And thats the last thing I have left for me to realize! So better honk and draw attention earlier to resolve the issue! If it needs too much work or not every one wants to resolve it, then move on because someday for sure many such un-resolved issues will 'dissolve' what you have or had !
Over past one year or may be during my stay in US I have come across such changes in friendship than I had wittnessed in India! Is it because we all are stressed here, have our own priorities, own agenda's or is it because we are just growing and becoming less flexible? Or is it because we were never on the same page ever! So things had to change! Well knowing the 'Emotional Blob' I have been I for sure was never in the same page! I never knew that one has to and should evaluate one's positon and location! If a there means am there for good!
They call it 'taken for granted', here we call it faith and being there for each other, come what may! Are these just the artifacts of trust and faith in these two worlds? The WEST, where no one takes anybody for granted, where no one trusts another 200% as opposed to the EAST, where if you are there, you are there for life and death !
Its surprizing but I did not think I will end here when I started ranting my thoughts! I think my narrowed channel is an aftermath of not wanting to taken for granted anymore! But deep down inside my root, my core tells me or makes me wanting to be there for someone, come what may! But again, with experiences from life, I hear my brain and heart going, nope, not if you are not there for me !
Please take your glorified doormat treatment with yourself to your house!
On a second note if I can and have learnt to value and apprecaite reciprocation by others then why can't others do and realize the same? If I feel so good and nice to reciprocate or when somebody reciprocates then am sure the other would also feel!
I think it boils down to realizing " ghar ki murgi dal barabar nahi hoti' as Murgiyaan ghaar badaal deti hain aajkal agar dhyan nahi rakha to :) "
He he I am glad I ended it on a funny note !! will have to post something related to this on the photoblog !
Cheap ENGLISH translation of the above : "house hen alias lenitil curry is not true anymore" as 'the house hen shifts houses if not taken care or fed properly" :))
How does one attend to all the emotions of others? Or is it important to attend your own emotions first? Or is it more important to attend to those who are important to you? Sometimes while attending others emotions we often loose track on what we feel and soon we forget when was the last time I listened or heard my emotions. When it feels nice and comforting to have someone attending to our expectation and emotions why is it hard to be understand and just stand by the others thought? Which we always knew and had answers to all our questions. Unfortunately for me, I have moved on to a very narrow channel in life. Where only reciprocated actions or events make a progress or have a stay in my life and memory. I have lost the interest of driving or walking on broad highways of un-reciprocated or unattended responses unless mentioned otherwise. But I expect a call or an sms or an instant note on 'am caught' in a traffic will get back to you as soon as possible! Is it like suffocating someone in an attendence sheet and killing their freedom?
No, thats not what I meant! As that isn't something I think I am capable of doing either. But if something is bothering me or has upset me or somebody is upset and that somebody is important to me, I have to resolve the issue at the earliest! Unresolved and unattended only makes me walk past the person on that narrow channel and beyond certain distance, I am on a different road and I become deaf to voices or calls from behind! I guess a better way will be I can't even hear any voice !
For me exchange of emotions, communications, thoughts, words, is the only way of letting something continue existing or being on the same page. One such unknown, uninformed stop over I believe becomes a habit till one day you realize you are not even on the same road anymore! And thats the last thing I have left for me to realize! So better honk and draw attention earlier to resolve the issue! If it needs too much work or not every one wants to resolve it, then move on because someday for sure many such un-resolved issues will 'dissolve' what you have or had !
Over past one year or may be during my stay in US I have come across such changes in friendship than I had wittnessed in India! Is it because we all are stressed here, have our own priorities, own agenda's or is it because we are just growing and becoming less flexible? Or is it because we were never on the same page ever! So things had to change! Well knowing the 'Emotional Blob' I have been I for sure was never in the same page! I never knew that one has to and should evaluate one's positon and location! If a there means am there for good!
They call it 'taken for granted', here we call it faith and being there for each other, come what may! Are these just the artifacts of trust and faith in these two worlds? The WEST, where no one takes anybody for granted, where no one trusts another 200% as opposed to the EAST, where if you are there, you are there for life and death !
Its surprizing but I did not think I will end here when I started ranting my thoughts! I think my narrowed channel is an aftermath of not wanting to taken for granted anymore! But deep down inside my root, my core tells me or makes me wanting to be there for someone, come what may! But again, with experiences from life, I hear my brain and heart going, nope, not if you are not there for me !
Please take your glorified doormat treatment with yourself to your house!
On a second note if I can and have learnt to value and apprecaite reciprocation by others then why can't others do and realize the same? If I feel so good and nice to reciprocate or when somebody reciprocates then am sure the other would also feel!
I think it boils down to realizing " ghar ki murgi dal barabar nahi hoti' as Murgiyaan ghaar badaal deti hain aajkal agar dhyan nahi rakha to :) "
He he I am glad I ended it on a funny note !! will have to post something related to this on the photoblog !
Cheap ENGLISH translation of the above : "house hen alias lenitil curry is not true anymore" as 'the house hen shifts houses if not taken care or fed properly" :))
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